Child’s Rape: Discourage not too disciplined husband from bathing your girl child
Oluyemisi Olubunmi Pitan, an academic staff of the Faculty of Education of the National Open University of Nigeria. She attended the then Ogun State College of Education between 1977-1980. She studied History/English.
She has a B.A (ED) English of the then University of Ife, M.ED Guidance and Counselling of the University of Ibadan. got her Doctor of Philosophy in Guidance and Counselling degree from the same University in 1998 with a specialization in Clinical Psychology. Her areas of competence are; Counseling Psychology, Personnel Psychology, Developmental Psychology, Clinical Psychology, Educational Psychology, Oral Literature, Poetry, and Drama.
She is a member of several International and National Professional bodies, Associations and Groups, where she also holds offices. She is United Nations Ambassador of Peace, Ambassador of Nigeria Media Association, Osun State Chapter, Consultant of the African Refugees foundation of Nigeria and many others. She is a philanthropist. She sponsors indigent students and those with special needs. She has an NGO for the Nigerian Dyslexics.
Featuring as Guest Speaker on COMMON GROUND, a programme organized yesterday by the Society for Peace Studies and Practice (SPSP) Ogun State Chapter, on the Rise in Child’s Rape in Nigeria: Implications for Peaceful Coexistence, Dr Pitan encouraged parents to be vigilant and give attention to their children.
Is it ideal for a father to clean up or bathe his daughter?
Some fathers have pervasive personality. He could have the manic tendency. He could lack control of his emotions. He could be an undisciplined person. It could also be an economic related reason. We now hear that fathers have the canal knowledge of their girl children for ritual purposes or longevity.
We are of varied personality. Where the wife has observed that she has a not too disciplined husband, she can wittingly discourage her husband from bathing their girl child. Outrightly, a male house help should not give a female child her bath.
What are the adverse effects?
Effects of child sexual abuse or rape on victims can be very grave and long lasting. The affected child could be infected with all kinds of STDs. The force introduced during the act could mutilate the private organ of the child. The child could lose interest in legal sexual functions later in her adulthood-frigidity.
The child may become infertile and childless. Depression could set in and suicidal tendencies. Post traumatic stress and anxiety could set in as well as victimisation and stigmatisation.
What to do?
Sex education will go a long way to help. It will create an awareness of the sexuality of the child. Sex education can start as early as when the child can talk. Parts of their bodies should be taught and explained to them. They should be exposed to the implications of touching these body parts by strangers.
Child rape is better prevented
The society must not be seen as a compromising one. The medical profession, the teachers, the law enforcement agencies should be very supportive of the rape victims. Parents must be super observant and watchful. Even brother and sister should not be allowed to lap themselves. The government must be cooperative too.
Our cultural values are mostly moral based. They are didactic in nature and content. If these values can be inculcated in our children in their formative years by parents or guardians, it will help a lot in shaping correctly the sexuality of these children
Stigmatisation should not be encouraged for this can be frustrating and can lead to anxiety and depression in later adulthood stage.
In the formative years of any child, great attention and complete one should be given to this child.
All of these agents must work hand in hand. They should compliment one another.
In conclusion, child rape is better prevented.